Why shopping care providers isn't such a bad thing.
At least once a month I see on social media community groups, women asking for recommendations for the best OBGYN or midwife in town. Mass amounts of comments pour in about why this OB is wonderful and how this one is a Godsend. I do love that we are able to connect and share our experiences and opinions via these outlets. Sure, I have my opinions as well (Exhibit A: This blog).
I am a strong champion for informed decision making. I believe that you should have some idea of how you would like to see your birth go. I know the idea of the "birth plan" is a debated one, but it can more be like a guideline than a concrete plan. Having an idea of how you want to labor, how you want to be touched, and how your body and baby are cared for in the fresh seconds after birth are things I think you should give some thought and consideration to. Which brings me to the choice of your doctor or midwife.
Finding a care provider that shares similar beliefs about pregnancy and birth as you is important. We all know that birth is not a one path journey. It can go in any direction at any moment and for the most part we just have to roll with it. But if you know your doctor is supportive of your choices and you don't have to wonder how they are going to handle the situation, it's just one less thing your brain has to cope with during labor. This is where the mass praise for one provider over another can get in the way of your process. No two births are the same. No two women are the same. What one woman loved about her doctor, you may not appreciate. It really comes down to connection. Do they support your desires for birth? What is their opinions on topics and procedures that matter to you? What are their thoughts on long labors, delayed cord clamping, going past due dates, etc...? You have the right to ask these questions and interview them. Even if you are not real picky about how things go, it is still good to ask so you can be an informed and active participant in your care. And if you find out down the road that the relationship isn't what you thought it was, you can find a new provider. You aren't locked into their care.
If you are able, go and shop care providers. Bring your questions and see who is the right one for you.